Since last couple of days, I have come across a lot of articles on mothers – working and non-working ones.
The working mothers most of the times feel the pressure of managing family and work – they carry a bit of guilt of not spending enough time with their kids and how they sometimes miss the most important moments when their kids are growing.
On the other hand, there are feelings expressed by the non-working ones that reflect how they choose motherhood over career, how they left their well-paying settled jobs just to be with their kids and cherish each and every moment.
And then I sit and wonder – where do I fit in?
As the mother’s day approach near, I would like to tell something to you my son – through this letter.
I want to tell you, that I am a working woman and I work because I have the passion to work – more than the need. I enjoy the status of “getting noticed” in the crowd. I dream of being a respectable and recognised professional. I work to fulfil my ambitions.
Then you may have a question for me – that – mom, are your dreams and ambitions more important than me?
No, my son, absolutely not. You are the most precious gift I have got in my life. There is nothing more important than you – not even my own self.
I stepped back from my dreams when you came in my life, and I will always do the same whenever you will need my complete attention – without any second thought.
But by me working, there are a lot of lessons I can teach you – that may not be as effective otherwise.
Do remember my son, I don’t want to teach you feminism, I want to cultivate that in you by giving you those experiences. I want you to know that like your dad, your mom shares equal responsibilities and enjoy equal authority at home.
I want you to remember that as I have you in my life, I have my parents too, who have struggled enough to ensure I succeed in life. Would it be a nice thing to be dependent on my spouse to take care of them? Or should I leave them with whatever available resources they have – even though I have the capabilities to give them a better life?
Yes I do miss some moments where I wish I didn’t have this hat of a working women. But then, don’t I have hats of all other relations that I maintain within the family? Aren’t there times when I was away from you for a family emergency in your grandparent’s home. So my son, don’t relate my working with me being away from you. We just have a lot of things to manage at the same time.
You may say that, mom, you only taught me that money can’t buy happiness. My son, don’t ever under estimate working with earning. Earning is one benefit why people work, but then there are many more such things above money – satisfaction, self-respect, confidence – a complete package.
Money is the mean to lead a life as per your wish. Money is not life.
Whether working or not working, your smile is the most affectionate thing I crave for. Your upbringing is the most important responsibility of my life.
I take pride in ensuring that I capable of being your support system – in whichever form you need. I am a happy person and I want you to be the same – without guilts, without sacrifices, without any burden on the heart.
I just have a silent wish – that when you grow up as a mature adult – you come to me and say – Mumma, I am proud of you!