Attending a funeral, I had a silent chaos in me. In the midst of prayers, cries, sorrow, hopelessness, I had a several questions running all around my mind. What if something happens to me? What if my family has to go through all this? What if.. a millions of what ifs..
All of us know that life and death are cycles of nature. Neither of it is in our control. We know these facts very well. All the spiritual books re-enforce the same thing again and again. We have been brought-up with the same teachings.
Still, when we loose someone dear, it is so difficult to cope-up with the loss. The brain stops working and all the realities around us look unfair. No matter how much support we get from the others, the loss can never be replaced.
On the occasion of women’s week, I want to tell all the women reading this, please take care of yourself, your health – mental and physical. We tend to prioritise our family over everything else, and in that rush, we miss to look after ourselves.
We ensure our family is fed well, but miss our meal times because of home chores.
I have seen many mothers cooking everyday for their husbands, in-laws, kids but having left-over food for themselves. I have seen women taking care of their family’s smallest of the pain, but ignoring the neck-back-knee pains, labelling it as “manageable”.
NO. THIS IS NOT RIGHT.
You are the anchor of your family. And the anchor needs to be strong for the boat to not sink or loose its way.
Can you imagine your family, if anything happens to you? They have created innumerous dependencies on you. From searching of their cloths, to food, to maintaining bills, to home chores, to social life to everything – you are the centre of everything, you are the centre of their world. And, you do take pride in this, Dont You? You love the feeling that without your presence, this home can’t even perform basic chores.
Of course, it is that feeling you must cherish. You have worked hard enough to earn this.
But don’t forget that with all this, unknowingly you are increasing your responsibilities towards your own health, your own healthy being.
If anything happens to you, a daughter will never be able to feel her achievements, a son will loose all the motivation towards success, a husband will be thrown in the world of loneliness – and your parents? Their sorrow will be beyond your imagination.
Everyone has to leave this world one day to unite with the divine power.
Let that be natural. Let us not invite that moment because we did not look after ourselves. Because we ignored our health. Because we didn’t have time.
Dear women, please think about this.