Posted in Emotions, Experiences, Family, Human Behaviour, Life, Life-Lessons, Love, Relationship

Rams VS Sitas.. I wonder..

coupleRamayan, the most honoured epic known to us is a story of Ram and Sita, or Siyaram, as people call them with love – THE IDEAL COUPLE.

Ram, the obedient, law abiding, calm, intelligent, man who is a perfect son, brother and husband. Sita, on the other hand is a perfect life partner supporting her husband is good and bad times.

They have 1 life, 1 goal.

Since my childhood, I have heard Ramayan reference many times. Even the television has taken this gist and made serials that portray couples as nice to each other as Siyaram.

But I wonder..

Today is a time of nuclear families, where both Sitas and Rams are running to make a good life. They strive day and night to maintain a decent standard of living.

It’s not a 1 life, 1 goal anymore.

Of course they do make a family, raise children, given them the childhood they deserve, as pampered as possible, maintain a social life.

Both they do have their individual worlds and influences. They have different goals, different aspirations, different challenges, different struggles, different ambitions.

In Ramayan, Ram and Sita had common challenges, so they fought together in unity.

However, is it the same for our Siyarams?

When Rams and Sitas are mentally slogging the entire day, putting equal efforts in everything they do, who should comfort whom? Who should understand first? Who should sacrifice first? Or should it be a “leave it for now” stand?

A recent book that I read – named Sita – very well describes the differences of masculine and feminine power – their thinking, their abilities, their strenghts and weaknesses. It explains the bests and the worsts of both.

But in reality, our Rams and Sitas believe in equality.

Is it an era of Ram VS Sita?

Both have a world that expects more and more from them, leaving less and less for themselves.

How can our Siyarams be as content as the originals?

I wonder..

 

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Posted in Being Myself, Life, Power

With my disturbed mind, I think..

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Here I am, celebrating colours of Navratri; all geared up enjoying every bit of the festive season. There is positivity around, enthusiasm filled in the air.

Dandiya, Garba, Shopping, Food – indulging in all.

Thinking about the long weekend ahead while sipping my morning coffee, I take the newspaper – browsing through the advertisements that supress the news.

And then I read..

  • A young girl brutally murdered.
  • A married woman boycotted, because she refused the V test
  • A group of ladies, overruling the SC order and restricting entry of girls in Sabarimala temple.
  • A serial killer confessing of raping minor girls.

And then I think to myself..

Which is the REAL society we live in? The one that i see everyday, or the one where such incidents happen?

On one side, we are celebrating the arrival of Goddess Durga, and on the other hand, we are torturing our own Durgas and Kalis.

What’s wrong? The people, the customs, the social rules or the narrow mentality? Can #metoo campaign bring justice to the trauma women would have gone through? Or will it be buried under the influence of power?

And what can i do? Is there any way I can contribute to change this? Or I will just remain just reader, a sympathy giver?

Speechless.

Posted in About Me, Being Myself, Emotions, Excited!!, Experiences, Family, Happiee Me, Happiness, Human Behaviour, Life, Life-Lessons, Love, Memories, Relationship, Special Days, Uncategorized

Mom, Mam aani Majh Mann :)

Silhouette of Mother and Young Child Holding Hands at SunsetAaj majhya chimuklyacha vaadh divas.. 5 years 😀 he is a grown up boy now..

Pan aai cha mann tar ashcharyach karat rahat ki kadhi aapal chotas baaL moth hot.. Tichya saathi tar aaplya baaLabaddhal tech prem, tich kalaji, tech prashna astat.. 

Jevlas ka?? Kay kay kel aaj? Dabba khaallas ka?

Tyachi health, tyala sanskaar denyachi dhadpad, tyachya maagnya puravnyache prayatn.. thodkyat kay, to khush asava hi ichha..

Khar tar aaichh baaLapeksha niragas aste asa mhanayla kahi harkat nahi.. karan aai kadhi mothi nahi hot.. ti tar tashich rahate..

Majh hi asach kahis zaalaye. Vichar karun aashchraych vatat ki ha 5 varshacha pan zaala.. 😀

Pan ha majha hero, mala achanakach kahi na kahi anubhav det rahato.. aani mala jaaniv karun deto ki to motha hotoye.. aani mi te anubhav jagat jagat, hasat, majhya manala sangte.. ho.. majh baaL moth hotay 🙂

Kadhi eka samjuddar mulasarkh vicharto, Aai are u busy? Kadhi chidlel roop aai var vaitagat, mala usheer zaala tar ghari sangto, lights off kara, ti andhar zaala tar yeil.. Kadhi majesheer kahitari bolun jaato.. aai mi ajun thoda motha hoto aani mag mich drive karel, tu maage bas.. 😀 aani jar majhya shistichya palikade masti karaychi asel, tar agdi sahajpane sangto.. aaj tu office madhyech raha 🙂

Kadhi kadhi vatat, office aani ghar sambhalata sambhalata ashe kahi kshan aapan miss karun takle.. 

Pan haa nirnay tar majhach aahe.. ata ashe vichar kashala..

Mag vichar yeto to office madhlya lokancha.. 

Kadhi Mam, he kay, Mam te kay che prashna.. tar kadhi he asach honar kinvha nahi honar che thaam uttara.. Ithehi hotat, rusve fugve, kadhi masti, kadhi fakt kaamach kaam..

pratyekachya aayushycha pravas, jashi ek goshta.. konache gharche vishay, tar konache ghar bandhayche 🙂 pratyekachi gosht mala vegali vatate, aavadte..

Kahi tyanchyakadun shikte, kahi te hi shikat astil majhyakadun.. 

Swatala dheer denyasaathi he vichar purese thartat..

He zaal mom and mam baddhal..

Aani shevti majh mann.. business language madhye sangaych zaal tar the 3rd M of my M Triangle 🙂

Majhya iccha.. majhya aakanksha.. majh swatach ek vyaktimatva.. 

Majhye swapna… avneesh la vaadhtana baghnyache, tyachyasobat ek ghatt naat banavnyache.. tyala changl vait chi samajh denyache..

Aani kahi majhya career che, kahi tari karun dhakhavnyache.. aapli ek olakh nirman karnyache.. 

Aani kahi majhye swathache.. jag firnyache.. jagat jitke variety of food aahet te khanyache, slim honyache 😀 😀

Hech tar aahe majh vishwa.. 3 Ms of my life 😀 :D.. majhe M che trikon 😀 😀

Posted in Life, Life-Lessons, Pain

What remains with you, is just YOU

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Situations come and go
Like the clouds they flow
They shake you, break you, tear you to the core
And then you feel, left alone on the shore

Neither the waves nor the sand or the sun
What remains there is just YOU

People become your support system
They listen, emphathise, sympathise, help
They do their best within their comfort of self
But still you feel, the lack of that holding hand

Neither the words nor the tone or pitch of their voice
What remains there is just YOU

You get sleepless, you get scared
Anger, frustration, helplessness is aired
You console, you doubt, you shout
You hate your own self, you hate the clout

Neither these feelings nor the curses or the screams
What remains there is just YOU.

Love yourself, take care of your heart
Because what remains with you is just YOU.

Posted in Being Myself, Experiences, Family, Life, Life-Lessons, Love, Relationship, Women's Day

Dear women, what if?

i1Attending a funeral, I had a silent chaos in me.  In the midst of prayers, cries, sorrow, hopelessness, I had a several questions running all around my mind. What if something happens to me? What if my family has to go through all this? What if.. a millions of what ifs..

All of us know that life and death are cycles of nature. Neither of it is in our control. We know these facts very well. All the spiritual books re-enforce the same thing again and again. We have been brought-up with the same teachings.

Still, when we loose someone dear, it is so difficult to cope-up with the loss. The brain stops working and all the realities around us look unfair. No matter how much support we get from the others, the loss can never be replaced.

On the occasion of women’s week, I want to tell all the women reading this, please take care of yourself, your health – mental and physical. We tend to prioritise our family over everything else, and in that rush, we miss to look after ourselves.

We ensure our family is fed well, but miss our meal times because of home chores.

I have seen many mothers cooking everyday for their husbands, in-laws, kids but having left-over food for themselves. I have seen women taking care of their family’s smallest of the pain, but ignoring the neck-back-knee pains, labelling it as “manageable”.

NO. THIS IS NOT RIGHT.

You are the anchor of your family. And the anchor needs to be strong for the boat to not sink or loose its way.

Can you imagine your family, if anything happens to you? They have created innumerous dependencies on you. From searching of their cloths, to food, to maintaining bills, to home chores, to social life to everything – you are the centre of everything, you are the centre of their world. And, you do take pride in this, Dont You? You love the feeling that without your presence, this home can’t even perform basic chores.

Of course, it is that feeling you must cherish. You have worked hard enough to earn this.

But don’t forget that with all this, unknowingly you are increasing your responsibilities towards your own health, your own healthy being.

If anything happens to you, a daughter will never be able to feel her achievements, a son will loose all the motivation towards success, a husband will be thrown in the world of loneliness – and your parents? Their sorrow will be beyond your imagination.

Everyone has to leave this world one day to unite with the divine power.

Let that be natural. Let us not invite that moment because we did not look after ourselves. Because we ignored our health. Because we didn’t have time.

Dear women, please think about this.

Posted in Being Myself, Emotions, Life, Love

To you, my love!

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My love,

I am so glad that I chose you to be in my life! You are just the perfect partner I needed!

2am, 3am, 6am, 10am, 4pm.. any time I need you, you are just there! No questions no explanations – just with me to prep my mood and give me that sense of calmness!

A true companion!

You understand my mind – give me that stillness to pause – think – go.

From my menu planning, to business strategies to risk analysis to what to wear – every thinking is incomplete without you! You are there in my evaluations, in my worries, my confusions. You are there in my tiredness, my dreaming, my stresses and my crazy ideas!

Any day without you is impossible to think!

And yeah, why just the big brainy things – you are expert in entertainment too! Movies, TV shows and even a newspaper – you don’t leave me there too!

You know what, people say, too much of being with you is not good for me.. But I think, why not! Come on, at least you are my dependable!

My feel good factor! 🙂

You teach me to be easy-going, be refreshing and to be that mood changer! You show me how to bring that goodness in someone’s life with me company.

Dear Coffee, I love you..

 

 

 

 

Posted in Being Myself, Emotions, Happiness, Life, Life-Lessons, Love, Romance

आयुष्य कसं..

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आयुष्य कसं.. डोळ्यात चमकणाऱ्या स्वप्नासारखं हवं
हसतं, खेळतं स्वतःच्याच रंगात गुंतलेलं
कधी घेत उंच भरारी, कधी छोट्याश्या आशेची एक कळी
कधी कर्तबगारीचा जिना तर कधी  हळूवार चढावी अशी पायरी

 

आयुष्य कसं.. वाहत्या निर्मळ नदीसारखं हवं
स्वच्छंद, स्वतंत्र, सतत पुढे वाहत राहणारं
कधी खळखळता आवाज, कधी धबधबा तर कधी संथ
कधी सर्वांना सामावून घेणारं तर कधी कोणाचंच न ऐकणारं

 

आयुष्य कसं.. त्या लपाछपी खेळणाऱ्या इंद्रधनुष्यासारखं हवं
सर्व रंगानी सजलेलं असूनही, पावसासोबतच येणारं
जेवढी गरज तेवढंच दिसणारं
कधी निसर्गात सौंदर्य भरणारं, तर कधी स्वतःलाच सुंदर समजणारं
कधी लांबूनच मन प्रसन्न करणारं, तर कधी जवळ असूनही हातात न येणारं

 

आयुष्य कसं.. अगदी साधं सोपं असावं
 
प्रेमाची ओढ लावणारं, प्रेमात चिंब भिजलेलं