Ramayan, the most honoured epic known to us is a story of Ram and Sita, or Siyaram, as people call them with love – THE IDEAL COUPLE.
Ram, the obedient, law abiding, calm, intelligent, man who is a perfect son, brother and husband. Sita, on the other hand is a perfect life partner supporting her husband is good and bad times.
They have 1 life, 1 goal.
Since my childhood, I have heard Ramayan reference many times. Even the television has taken this gist and made serials that portray couples as nice to each other as Siyaram.
But I wonder..
Today is a time of nuclear families, where both Sitas and Rams are running to make a good life. They strive day and night to maintain a decent standard of living.
It’s not a 1 life, 1 goal anymore.
Of course they do make a family, raise children, given them the childhood they deserve, as pampered as possible, maintain a social life.
Both they do have their individual worlds and influences. They have different goals, different aspirations, different challenges, different struggles, different ambitions.
In Ramayan, Ram and Sita had common challenges, so they fought together in unity.
However, is it the same for our Siyarams?
When Rams and Sitas are mentally slogging the entire day, putting equal efforts in everything they do, who should comfort whom? Who should understand first? Who should sacrifice first? Or should it be a “leave it for now” stand?
A recent book that I read – named Sita – very well describes the differences of masculine and feminine power – their thinking, their abilities, their strenghts and weaknesses. It explains the bests and the worsts of both.
But in reality, our Rams and Sitas believe in equality.
Is it an era of Ram VS Sita?
Both have a world that expects more and more from them, leaving less and less for themselves.
How can our Siyarams be as content as the originals?