Food for thought

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Your-Brand-Sucks-Because-Youre-Trying-to-be-Someone-Else (2)Just on crazily busy day with calendar full of meetings and a long to-do list, my Skype notification attracted my attention. One of my friends had changed his Skype status.

I thought to myself, my status message is also getting old day by day. It needs to be youthful, a refreshment to mind as soon as I start my work. It should make me smile as I begin the show!

Not that the current one isn’t doing so, but may be I have started taking it for granted and not paying so much attention!  😛 Is it like an old relationship.  😀

So after a couple of minutes in my own thinking world – I came up with a great message – oh I do think it’s a great one!  😛

Believe in the power of being YOU!

I got so impressed with my own thought that I posted it on Facebook as well to see if I have like-minded people around. 🙂

And to my surprise, a dozen of “likes” followed 🙂

This makes me think – is this very simple fact of life of being and living the way you are, really worth a status? Does it really need to be practiced? Is there a disconnect between who we are and how we are portraying ourselves?

Even standing in front of the mirror gives a “mirror image” not the real one. The reflection in water also shakes with the flow. The photos you have saved as memories doesn’t necessarily reflect your true emotion in that moment.

And then what are we scared of? Are we too busy pleasing others? Or just not very confident about our own selves? Is it a fear to avoid loneliness? Or a habit to showcase an ideal figure??

Not sure of the answer really – but worth food for thought!

It just needs a moment to look within and find out – how does it feel to just be “ME”.

May be the “likers” of my status message took that moment!

Are you in it yet??

 

 

 

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a mother or a learner?

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happy-quotes-1245So, you are a daughter, and a sister and a wife and a MOTHER and a friend and a professional and a home maker and the list continues!! 🙂

Out of all the roles I play in my life, being a mother is something I enjoy the most. Motherhood is the greatest blessing woman has. It’s an embracing experience, a bundle of responsibilities, authority, joy, innocence and of course a continuous learning!

Yes, my 2.5 years old son is the greatest teacher I have. Life has been so very positive since his arrival. The priorities have changed, the approach towards my own self has transformed – a refreshing feel! 🙂

So what is this learning I am talking about:

  • Being fearless – I am sure you would have yourselves noticed kids in the park playing fearlessly on the rides and the swings. They don’t bother about falling down, they just enjoy the moment.

Isn’t it the best learning ever? Whenever I see my son, he teaches me to be fearless – because only the present moment is in our control – neither the past and nor the future is. We have to live this moment to the fullest. And that’s what will make our life worth enjoying! 🙂 🙂

  • Consistency – Since his birth I have been observing him. He keeps doing the same thing again and again till he actually learns it. Let it be crawling, standing up, sitting or walking.. or even talking. His repeated actions give him perfection in what he does.

A great way of dealing with things! I have been trying something, then leaving it blaming its difficult and then trying it again – on a random basis. The reason of my failure was lack of consistency. Let it be healthy eating or meditation or gyming – I failed countless times. But seeing my baby try all the various things so consistently makes me feel to ape him! 😛 I am sure the one reason for my success now is going to be his teaching!

  • Creativity – Trying something new every time is something that amazes me about him. The small brain inside him can relate anything anywhere – imagine he playing with a “griddle” singing “wheels on the bus” rhyme! 😀 😀

Well, we are humans and we get bored doing same things again and again. Think about it. Is it so difficult to just tweak a few things here and there – unplanned sometimes – and just be creative!! We are not machines to be monotonous isn’t it 😛

I am sure you have your own learnings (and challenges 😉 ) that you counter every day as a parent. Do share, I am eager to know if I am missing some fun! 😛

 

SMILE please! :)

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What??? Are you out of your mind?? We are already late for office and do you see this choked traffic?? and you wanna click photos now?? Unbelievable!

My colleague was on top of her voice when I just said – smile please! 🙂  I was just trying to click that irritated face to show how unpleasant she looked in anger 😛

We spend days and days worrying on all the possible things that are just not happening right. As small as why the alarm didn’t ring and why the bus is late, why the veggie prices are gone up to as big as – why is corruption everywhere, why can’t we have an alternate for petrol soon? 😉

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And then are we forgetting to smile?

  A smile seeing your baby sleep

  A smile on remembering a friend for his gifted shirt you are wearing

  A smile when someone was just about to slip

  A smile seeing a loving couple in the park

  A smile while cooking your favorite dish

  A smile seeing old pictures

  A smile while listening to your favorite music

  A smile when you are in love

  A smile when you on your naughty act

  A smile just like that!

Countless reasons!!!

It said that smile is the best beauty one can carry. It’s contagious and it’s just so very powerful to make someone’s day!

Stay healthy! Keep smiling!

Old Age (NEW) Home

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takingcareofelderlyMy neighbors – the sweetest couple I have ever seen in my life. Ajji-Ajoba as I call them (grandpa and grandma).

Ajoba, in his late 60s, is a retired person from a manufacturing company. Ajji has been a home-maker ever since she understands “marriage” – since just a decade minus her age.

Every day I have multiple “eyes-breakers” with them. In the morning, when I open the door to collect the milk bags, both of them are going for a walk; when I leave my son to school, they sit relaxly on their sofa enjoying breakfast and tea; when I leave for office, there’s a quick instruction of “go safe” for my ajji next door.

They do not believe in the modern – close doors and sit policy. Their home welcomes everyone with a smiling face – anytime of the day.

It’s been 6 months now that I know them and they have become our extended family.

I just love the way they complement each other, they understand each other’s need without uttering a single word.

Last month..

They decided to go to an old age home and stay. Initially, I didn’t understand why was this even needed as a thought?

They do have 2 kids, both settled in the US. Neither the children want to come back to India, nor Ajji-Ajoba wanna go and settle in the US. Their children though, did buy a flat for these old parents – as a part of social responsibility.

I wasn’t at all convinced of this whole idea, still decided to give an ear to why they think it’s a great deal to be in an old age home. They have their own reasons. They had a struggle every day for cooking, cleaning home managing their needs on their own and so on.

They looked very excited about the shift. They described the old age home as a place with all the amenities they need – just under one roof. An ATM, Hospital, Medical Shop, Recreation Club and most importantly – people of their own age to mingle with.

The room they had chosen was a beautiful one room kitchen kind of arrangement, with tea coffee was just a button press away!

They explained me the ease they will have there with no tension to think of buying groceries or vegetables, no tension if maid doesn’t turn up, no worry if there are power cuts and they don’t find things in the dark.

Hmm, not such a bad idea, I thought for a moment.

With a lot of enthusiasm pumped in their blood, they left and I also happily waved a  bye-bye to them promising that we will surely be in touch.

Few days later..

I started missing that elderly presence on our floor. In this busy world, you need someone to tell you that you need to have food on time, you need to pray etc etc and etc… :), isn’t it? Ofcourse, our parents do that. But practically, we have come far from our parents too..

I decided to visit them. They welcomed me with the same happy gesture. They looked content. They shared stories of how Ajoba was thrilled while playing Carrom with his “new” buddies after many years, how Ajji goes to temple with her new girl friends 😉 How they loved that small picnic to Japanese garden! And yes, not to forget, the coffee was really a button press away. The well dressed staff of the old age home got us coffee in just 5 mins.

Amazing! I felt so good for them. They are delighted to the fullest! They are making the most of the life after retirement!

With the satisfaction of meeting them, I came home and got back to my routine life..

Last week..

I was surprised to see Ajji-Ajoba back in their flat. A thunder of questions hit my brain – did they come just to collect some stuff? Were they not able to manage in the old age home? Are they ok? This is something wrong with them?

I went running to see them and figure out. The same smiling face revealed that they have shifted back to their flat and cancelled their stay at the old age home

What?? I said? You were so happy there?? A curious me questioned.

Gathering courage, Ajoba said.. Yes, we were very happy. But the fact is that we are old. And we are going to die soon.

People in the old age home are also our age.

It breaks our heart in pieces hearing news of death of people in our group. Our heart is not so strong. It doesn’t let us sleep whole night. It makes us restless. NO.. we are not that strong to take it.

A moment of silence…………………………………………………………………………

I couldn’t utter a single word, just came back.

It’s been 2 days now since they are back. I see them settling again in the flat, keeping up with their routine.

Is this the life they had imagined when they were growing their children? Wouldn’t they be wishing to play with their grandchildren? Wasn’t they imagining a relaxed life on retirement assuming their kids will take care of them from now? Didn’t they dream of a complete family time?

Why is our generation not considering these points and running after success leaving parents to suffer?

I am not blaming only others. Even I make mistakes. How much time does it take for me to call my mom and ask if she has taken her medicine? Don’t we have even this much of time really?

How happy will they feel when we hold their hand and say – don’t worry, we are there for you! Why do we need old age homes ever in this world? The way their cared for us, can’t we give it back the same way?

I am speechless.

2nd innings..

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2013-02-19-back-to-workAh! So finally here I am with my tortoise pen blogging again!

Last 2 years have been crazy with my little one doing all the naughty cute things, and keeping me busy. Though hectic, I feel this is the best part of my life seeing my – now toddler – growing and dancing and playing and learning and what not. My smarty he is! 😎

During this period, I didn’t take off from work but chose to make my home my new workstation. I was working from home for the last 2 years taking care of my bundle of joy and my home and my home office. I kept visiting office once a week or so just to be in touch with people around. Its just 1 month away now that I need to re-join work and get into the 2nd innings after a good long honeymoon period!

A lot of mixed emotions are going around my mind, and I am not sure which one to focus on. 😐

As you would also have experienced, there is a joy of getting back to work, be with people (sitting at home working alone is terrible!), share stories, share lunch.. Ah, I soo missed it!

Meeting people and sharing ideas and the discussions are still much more productive and “human” in this advanced technology age!

A small tea break with friends and the chitchats and the gossips give more energy to the blood than the fiber-rich biscuits at home 😛

Hmm, yaa so that is one part of the story.

Other part of my brain is all taken by a worried mom on thoughts if my tiny tot would adjust in the playschool, would he be ok without me, would the people in playschool be as patient as I am with him while he make tantrums for food. The list is endless! 😦 😦

Who can understand a kid more than his mother? And again, who else would want to?

This again reflects the importance of our culture of joint families, staying together – helping hands for all.

I checked a couple of playschools all of which claimed to be the best. The choice is tough and gets tougher with the reviews that I read – a mix of good and bad.

And with these thoughts when I walk towards my room, I see my wardrobe and wonder – isn’t the collection a bit old now for office 😛

30 days to go from now, and life is going to change! Let me see what comes in the plate!

The best part about future is the suspense it has! Isnt it? 🙂

Wordless!

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EmotionsLabeledConversations.. The talks, the discussions, the arguments, the gossips! 🙂

Most of our time goes in conversing with people. Formal, informal,  in office or home, our mouth gets more energy by talking than by eating! Do you second me here? 😉

And now with the new media of “silent communication” over Facebook, Whatsapp or any other messenger for that matter, it become more easy to exchange thoughts – INSTANTLY! 🙂

Many in the business of life coaching claim that healthy conversations with you partner or family members, friends or colleagues make healthy relationships for you! True, really works.

However would you agree with me if I say that sometimes words are not enough to explain what we feel? Have you ever given a thought to this – most of our emotional moments are WORDLESS!

Well, now I am sure you are thinking what I mean by wordless?. And I do not plan to confuse you more with this sentence. Let me explain.

Do you recall a moment of success when just a “hi-fi” to your friend meant – “yes we did it!”

Isn’t a tight hug enough to convey “thank you” for a surprise gift from your partner?

Just a tap on the back to your best buddy when his eyes are teary speaks more than what words can express!

Shy face of your girlfriend when you propose her is something you are gonna remember lifelong!

Can you explain in words why your lips made that big curve looking at your baby’s first steps?

There are endless examples like these.

We are humans and we are emotional. We emote in number of ways!

The best of your emotional moments are still WORDLESS! 🙂

Probably that’s the reason that even when we have liberty to type without limitations on words, ‘smileys’ are the ones that make our chats complete!

What do you think guys?