2015 and the Apocalypse!

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Yet another year is passing. the WORLD WIDE people on –  WEB are talking about new year resolutions, parties, memories, excitements – all cheerful, vibrant – all just perfect!!

And what am I doing? Writing this blog and at the same time thinking of the “cake to bake” in the evening. 😀

As I browse through my Facebook page, I see something called “Posts of 2015”. I click that and glimpse of my year long memories get
showcased one by one.

I won’t wonder if one day man creates something exactly like part of our brain that store memories 😛 After all, brain also has the rights to OUTSOURCE work 😀 😀

And then I take a recap on this year – 2015 and the Apocalypse

This year has been more of “maintaining” things than achieving more and more. And this has been a year of experiences that made me mature, made me strong emotionally – made me self-aware.

And friends, this is what I really learnt and practiced along this year:

  • Confusions are good for life!!

This year gave me a lot of situations where I got confused, got bizarre with options – all equally important. And I had to scratch my head for nights to understand what to choose?

But you know what, confusions are good!! Because they let you analyse your priorities yet again. They create a bonding between you and your loved ones when you share the confusions. Your loved ones feel that their options matter to you! Confusions bring a momentum in your life – something different than your routine work – and of course they motivate you with a feeling of achievement when you really reach a final option for yourself!

Aren’t these benefits worth cherishing being confused???

  • YOU are the power!!

Most of the time, we feel low when our expectations are not met, when our wishes are not fulfilled. But then look within. Why to feel dependent on someone else for your own happiness. Don’t you have any example of making someone else happy? And if its a yes, which I am sure it is, why not make just yourself happy!!

Think about it. You are the one who knows you in and out, your strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, your dreams, your compromises – a complete YOU. And so, isn’t it necessary valuing your own being?

YOU are the most important person for you.. Try this!!

  • Work-life balance? – NO!! its more LIFE-WORK-MIND balance

Many talk about work life balance these days. Psychologists, corporate, your own family members!! But think for a moment? Why call it work-life balance and not LIFE-WORK balance? Isn’t work part of your life? Isn’t your life first??

And more than balancing life and work, isn’t it important to balance your responsibilities in them. Do you really have to feel guilty for that work-off you took when your son wasn’t well, or for those long hours you spend in office for an important delivery.

Every aspect of our life is important and unique in its own way. And hence, balance is important. Our situations decide how to act, and if we have this mental balance in life – life is all good!! Isnt it?

Well, I am sure you too would have a lot of learnings running in your mind as you recap your year long journey.

thankfulnessLet’s open our arms towards the sunset of this last day of 2015 and give a thankful adieu to 2015!

Wish you all a very happy and cheerful 2016!

 

 

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Love is.. what it is.. ♥♥

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I couldn’t gather words..
When I was asked, what love means to me
I just know with you it was special and new
Something that was gifted only for me

When we first met..love
Love meant that blush sitting by your side
That slight hesitation, that excitement I couldn’t hide
Every song lyricked my feelings for you
Always wondered if u also felt me in you?

When we got along..
Love meant a dreamful journey with u
Growing old together, in happiness and blue
Having family, raising our kids
Making our home, a bit by bit

Now after many years..
Love is a mature feeling of us
A habit, a comfort, a bond of trust
It’s the completeness u bring to my world
Every moment of life, worth to behold!

There is just one thing I feel hasn’t changed by time..
You rule my heart, what more to say?
How more can I explain this cute little play
You are still the first thought when I start my day
I think of just you, when night is at bay!

In my own world of thoughts..

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Rapunzel-disney-tangled-33514359-2560-1600In my own world of thoughts..
I always dreamt about that one presence
That emotional bond, that secure essence

In my own world of thoughts..
And there you came one day,
Tickling my heart, with a silent say
May be just to complete that one thing
Which I always missed, somewhere deep within

I crafted my own innocent cloud
I heard my inner self clear and loud
Without boundaries to imagine
I sailed my way, yes I did shine

As I kept experiencing you each day
I learnt, I saw, I did have a small play
And then did I realise, its yet another illusion
Should I be silent, or sort out the confusion?

It’s just a perfect world, all around me
Then what makes me miss, something that I can’t see
Something like the waves and sea shore
They thrive to meet, they want just a bit more!

I myself then carved a smile around
Does it have something to Bound?
Is it just a wait and watch game
Or I will someday, get my share of fame!

In my own world of thoughts..
I wish I will have that Day
Where I am the Queen – just everyday..

SMILE please! :)

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What??? Are you out of your mind?? We are already late for office and do you see this choked traffic?? and you wanna click photos now?? Unbelievable!

My colleague was on top of her voice when I just said – smile please! 🙂  I was just trying to click that irritated face to show how unpleasant she looked in anger 😛

We spend days and days worrying on all the possible things that are just not happening right. As small as why the alarm didn’t ring and why the bus is late, why the veggie prices are gone up to as big as – why is corruption everywhere, why can’t we have an alternate for petrol soon? 😉

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And then are we forgetting to smile?

  A smile seeing your baby sleep

  A smile on remembering a friend for his gifted shirt you are wearing

  A smile when someone was just about to slip

  A smile seeing a loving couple in the park

  A smile while cooking your favorite dish

  A smile seeing old pictures

  A smile while listening to your favorite music

  A smile when you are in love

  A smile when you on your naughty act

  A smile just like that!

Countless reasons!!!

It said that smile is the best beauty one can carry. It’s contagious and it’s just so very powerful to make someone’s day!

Stay healthy! Keep smiling!

Old Age (NEW) Home

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takingcareofelderlyMy neighbors – the sweetest couple I have ever seen in my life. Ajji-Ajoba as I call them (grandpa and grandma).

Ajoba, in his late 60s, is a retired person from a manufacturing company. Ajji has been a home-maker ever since she understands “marriage” – since just a decade minus her age.

Every day I have multiple “eyes-breakers” with them. In the morning, when I open the door to collect the milk bags, both of them are going for a walk; when I leave my son to school, they sit relaxly on their sofa enjoying breakfast and tea; when I leave for office, there’s a quick instruction of “go safe” for my ajji next door.

They do not believe in the modern – close doors and sit policy. Their home welcomes everyone with a smiling face – anytime of the day.

It’s been 6 months now that I know them and they have become our extended family.

I just love the way they complement each other, they understand each other’s need without uttering a single word.

Last month..

They decided to go to an old age home and stay. Initially, I didn’t understand why was this even needed as a thought?

They do have 2 kids, both settled in the US. Neither the children want to come back to India, nor Ajji-Ajoba wanna go and settle in the US. Their children though, did buy a flat for these old parents – as a part of social responsibility.

I wasn’t at all convinced of this whole idea, still decided to give an ear to why they think it’s a great deal to be in an old age home. They have their own reasons. They had a struggle every day for cooking, cleaning home managing their needs on their own and so on.

They looked very excited about the shift. They described the old age home as a place with all the amenities they need – just under one roof. An ATM, Hospital, Medical Shop, Recreation Club and most importantly – people of their own age to mingle with.

The room they had chosen was a beautiful one room kitchen kind of arrangement, with tea coffee was just a button press away!

They explained me the ease they will have there with no tension to think of buying groceries or vegetables, no tension if maid doesn’t turn up, no worry if there are power cuts and they don’t find things in the dark.

Hmm, not such a bad idea, I thought for a moment.

With a lot of enthusiasm pumped in their blood, they left and I also happily waved a  bye-bye to them promising that we will surely be in touch.

Few days later..

I started missing that elderly presence on our floor. In this busy world, you need someone to tell you that you need to have food on time, you need to pray etc etc and etc… :), isn’t it? Ofcourse, our parents do that. But practically, we have come far from our parents too..

I decided to visit them. They welcomed me with the same happy gesture. They looked content. They shared stories of how Ajoba was thrilled while playing Carrom with his “new” buddies after many years, how Ajji goes to temple with her new girl friends 😉 How they loved that small picnic to Japanese garden! And yes, not to forget, the coffee was really a button press away. The well dressed staff of the old age home got us coffee in just 5 mins.

Amazing! I felt so good for them. They are delighted to the fullest! They are making the most of the life after retirement!

With the satisfaction of meeting them, I came home and got back to my routine life..

Last week..

I was surprised to see Ajji-Ajoba back in their flat. A thunder of questions hit my brain – did they come just to collect some stuff? Were they not able to manage in the old age home? Are they ok? This is something wrong with them?

I went running to see them and figure out. The same smiling face revealed that they have shifted back to their flat and cancelled their stay at the old age home

What?? I said? You were so happy there?? A curious me questioned.

Gathering courage, Ajoba said.. Yes, we were very happy. But the fact is that we are old. And we are going to die soon.

People in the old age home are also our age.

It breaks our heart in pieces hearing news of death of people in our group. Our heart is not so strong. It doesn’t let us sleep whole night. It makes us restless. NO.. we are not that strong to take it.

A moment of silence…………………………………………………………………………

I couldn’t utter a single word, just came back.

It’s been 2 days now since they are back. I see them settling again in the flat, keeping up with their routine.

Is this the life they had imagined when they were growing their children? Wouldn’t they be wishing to play with their grandchildren? Wasn’t they imagining a relaxed life on retirement assuming their kids will take care of them from now? Didn’t they dream of a complete family time?

Why is our generation not considering these points and running after success leaving parents to suffer?

I am not blaming only others. Even I make mistakes. How much time does it take for me to call my mom and ask if she has taken her medicine? Don’t we have even this much of time really?

How happy will they feel when we hold their hand and say – don’t worry, we are there for you! Why do we need old age homes ever in this world? The way their cared for us, can’t we give it back the same way?

I am speechless.

An evening (like) in Paris!!

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stock-footage-paris-france-circa-eiffel-tower-at-night-light-show-timelapse-paris-franceParis – the city every tourist dreams to visit. The city of love, the city of lights!

I am no different! I too imagine myself roaming in the crowded streets of Paris, clicking myself under the Eiffel Tower, witnessing the magic of lights under the open dark sky – somethings I have only read about.

What happens when I get the same experience – here – in Pune?

Aeem.. Are you thinking I have lost it? Comparing Paris to Pune?? 😐

Don’t know really. But the emotions I felt that evening weren’t any less than of being in Paris.

I think the inner happiness is felt from the moments we live, the emotions we feel in a certain situation – place is just a plot of the entire experience.

We started from home at 4 in the evening. It was a small plan – taking my son to a park, dinner in one of the restaurants nearby and back to home. A simple family weekend.

While on our way, I saw a newly opened amusement park. A temporary one built on a playground, huge hoardings of exciting rides, balls and balloons, ice creams and chocolates – a vibrant environment. The tall colourful lights on every ride were surely the most powerful attraction of this park. A lot of kids were standing in front of the park with their families and friends excitedly waiting for their turn to enter.

That momentary sight tickled my mind. Reminded me my childhood memories. It had been years visiting such a place. My father used to take us to amusement parks after our exams – a simple way to distress our little brains. 😎

Would it be a good idea to take my soon turning 2 years son to this place? A thought pricked. Well why not – I said to myself. But isn’t he too small for this place? Caring mom in me peeped.

After a couple of thought exchanges between my caring side and my practical side, we made our way to the amusement park.

We entered the amusement park. Every ride had a queue of kids waiting desperately for their turns. The Mary-go-around, the Columbus boat, the dash-the-car, the jumping jack – all were full of joyous screams! I must say – those innocent smiles have an extra ordinary power of refreshing our lives!

Out of the few rides suited for my son, we made him sit on a play car ride. A simple one with 5-6 cars rotating on a small horizontal wheel like structure.

His way of holding the steering, the joy in his sparkling eyes, the way he waved his little hand every time the car passed by us – the complete experience was a speechless delight!

I think more than he enjoying his first time visit to such a park, we were amazed seeing his play. 🙂

He played few more rides – a bike ride, a small dragon ride, a helicopter ride – with the same enthusiasm and energy.

At last we went to the jumping balloon ride. It was a huge balloon with a netted flat base where kids can keep jumping. They had kept some balls inside to add more fun.

There were few more kids inside the balloon – between 2-5 years of age. I was scared initially – fearing he will get hurt if another kid falls on him while jumping. So I stood a bit far while my husband dropped his inside the balloon.

At first, he didn’t understand what to do. The moment he used to try standing, the balloon would shake by the jumps of other kids and he used to fall down. He tried couple of times, then just sat in the middle of the floor wondering what to do next. My husband read his mind, made some signs asking him to crawl and come to us, which he perfectly understood and followed. Then my husband holded his right hand and said – jump. He jumped and yay!! – he was doing exactly the same as other kids. He was happy for his success!! He kept jumping, losing his balance, kicking the balls that came near him. Adventurous – for him and for us.

Ahh, what a heartfelt experience was this!! 🙂

After the rides section was a small market area. We bought some toys for him, which he proudly carried. We got our family photo clicked in sketch style – that has become a frame in our bedroom now.

Wow, a great evening spent!!

I don’t know when I will go to Paris, but I am sure when we have our loved ones with us, every place has a Paris in it!! 🙂

What I learnt from you..

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Just like the river that doesn’t stop flowing
No matter what happens, earthquake or flooding
Committed to dissolve in the arms of the sea
Leaving her identity, the attitude of “me’’
She doesn’t bother leaving her sweetness for blue
Such commitment is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that bird who is building her nest
Mud, twigs, leaves, she uses all at her best
Only thought in her mind, is the safety of young ones
Heat or wind, nothing bothers her, not even the sun
She wants the nest, strongly tied together in glue
Such care is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that tree, standing tall in pride
Years and years went till it got fruits that shine
Till then he waited, patiently every season
To grow just a bit more, thinking may be that’s the reason
Look at him now, soothing shadow, leaves with dew
Such patience is what, I learnt from you..

Just like the moon and the stars in the sky
Together they make a beauty, up, that high
Pleasant to the eyes, they have a charm a grace
Happy with what it is, they don’t have any race
Elegance cant be seen, with stars just a few
Such togetherness is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that mountain, hard and strong
Doesn’t ever change, clouds crash or wind takes him wrong
Steady he is, protective towards his beings
Unshaken, for good bad, seen unseen
Get your head high, to get this view
Such strong love, is what I learnt from you..