Love is.. what it is.. ♥♥

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I couldn’t gather words..
When I was asked, what love means to me
I just know with you it was special and new
Something that was gifted only for me

When we first met..love
Love meant that blush sitting by your side
That slight hesitation, that excitement I couldn’t hide
Every song lyricked my feelings for you
Always wondered if u also felt me in you?

When we got along..
Love meant a dreamful journey with u
Growing old together, in happiness and blue
Having family, raising our kids
Making our home, a bit by bit

Now after many years..
Love is a mature feeling of us
A habit, a comfort, a bond of trust
It’s the completeness u bring to my world
Every moment of life, worth to behold!

There is just one thing I feel hasn’t changed by time..
You rule my heart, what more to say?
How more can I explain this cute little play
You are still the first thought when I start my day
I think of just you, when night is at bay!

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Old Age (NEW) Home

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takingcareofelderlyMy neighbors – the sweetest couple I have ever seen in my life. Ajji-Ajoba as I call them (grandpa and grandma).

Ajoba, in his late 60s, is a retired person from a manufacturing company. Ajji has been a home-maker ever since she understands “marriage” – since just a decade minus her age.

Every day I have multiple “eyes-breakers” with them. In the morning, when I open the door to collect the milk bags, both of them are going for a walk; when I leave my son to school, they sit relaxly on their sofa enjoying breakfast and tea; when I leave for office, there’s a quick instruction of “go safe” for my ajji next door.

They do not believe in the modern – close doors and sit policy. Their home welcomes everyone with a smiling face – anytime of the day.

It’s been 6 months now that I know them and they have become our extended family.

I just love the way they complement each other, they understand each other’s need without uttering a single word.

Last month..

They decided to go to an old age home and stay. Initially, I didn’t understand why was this even needed as a thought?

They do have 2 kids, both settled in the US. Neither the children want to come back to India, nor Ajji-Ajoba wanna go and settle in the US. Their children though, did buy a flat for these old parents – as a part of social responsibility.

I wasn’t at all convinced of this whole idea, still decided to give an ear to why they think it’s a great deal to be in an old age home. They have their own reasons. They had a struggle every day for cooking, cleaning home managing their needs on their own and so on.

They looked very excited about the shift. They described the old age home as a place with all the amenities they need – just under one roof. An ATM, Hospital, Medical Shop, Recreation Club and most importantly – people of their own age to mingle with.

The room they had chosen was a beautiful one room kitchen kind of arrangement, with tea coffee was just a button press away!

They explained me the ease they will have there with no tension to think of buying groceries or vegetables, no tension if maid doesn’t turn up, no worry if there are power cuts and they don’t find things in the dark.

Hmm, not such a bad idea, I thought for a moment.

With a lot of enthusiasm pumped in their blood, they left and I also happily waved a  bye-bye to them promising that we will surely be in touch.

Few days later..

I started missing that elderly presence on our floor. In this busy world, you need someone to tell you that you need to have food on time, you need to pray etc etc and etc… :), isn’t it? Ofcourse, our parents do that. But practically, we have come far from our parents too..

I decided to visit them. They welcomed me with the same happy gesture. They looked content. They shared stories of how Ajoba was thrilled while playing Carrom with his “new” buddies after many years, how Ajji goes to temple with her new girl friends 😉 How they loved that small picnic to Japanese garden! And yes, not to forget, the coffee was really a button press away. The well dressed staff of the old age home got us coffee in just 5 mins.

Amazing! I felt so good for them. They are delighted to the fullest! They are making the most of the life after retirement!

With the satisfaction of meeting them, I came home and got back to my routine life..

Last week..

I was surprised to see Ajji-Ajoba back in their flat. A thunder of questions hit my brain – did they come just to collect some stuff? Were they not able to manage in the old age home? Are they ok? This is something wrong with them?

I went running to see them and figure out. The same smiling face revealed that they have shifted back to their flat and cancelled their stay at the old age home

What?? I said? You were so happy there?? A curious me questioned.

Gathering courage, Ajoba said.. Yes, we were very happy. But the fact is that we are old. And we are going to die soon.

People in the old age home are also our age.

It breaks our heart in pieces hearing news of death of people in our group. Our heart is not so strong. It doesn’t let us sleep whole night. It makes us restless. NO.. we are not that strong to take it.

A moment of silence…………………………………………………………………………

I couldn’t utter a single word, just came back.

It’s been 2 days now since they are back. I see them settling again in the flat, keeping up with their routine.

Is this the life they had imagined when they were growing their children? Wouldn’t they be wishing to play with their grandchildren? Wasn’t they imagining a relaxed life on retirement assuming their kids will take care of them from now? Didn’t they dream of a complete family time?

Why is our generation not considering these points and running after success leaving parents to suffer?

I am not blaming only others. Even I make mistakes. How much time does it take for me to call my mom and ask if she has taken her medicine? Don’t we have even this much of time really?

How happy will they feel when we hold their hand and say – don’t worry, we are there for you! Why do we need old age homes ever in this world? The way their cared for us, can’t we give it back the same way?

I am speechless.

What I learnt from you..

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love

Just like the river that doesn’t stop flowing
No matter what happens, earthquake or flooding
Committed to dissolve in the arms of the sea
Leaving her identity, the attitude of “me’’
She doesn’t bother leaving her sweetness for blue
Such commitment is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that bird who is building her nest
Mud, twigs, leaves, she uses all at her best
Only thought in her mind, is the safety of young ones
Heat or wind, nothing bothers her, not even the sun
She wants the nest, strongly tied together in glue
Such care is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that tree, standing tall in pride
Years and years went till it got fruits that shine
Till then he waited, patiently every season
To grow just a bit more, thinking may be that’s the reason
Look at him now, soothing shadow, leaves with dew
Such patience is what, I learnt from you..

Just like the moon and the stars in the sky
Together they make a beauty, up, that high
Pleasant to the eyes, they have a charm a grace
Happy with what it is, they don’t have any race
Elegance cant be seen, with stars just a few
Such togetherness is what, I learnt from you..

Just like that mountain, hard and strong
Doesn’t ever change, clouds crash or wind takes him wrong
Steady he is, protective towards his beings
Unshaken, for good bad, seen unseen
Get your head high, to get this view
Such strong love, is what I learnt from you..

☯ A pearl has come inside its oyster ☯

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ONP1Have you ever experienced it with yourself that when you really want something, you don’t get it but when you leave that expectation and move on, destiny plays its cards and get you the same thing at an unexpected time! I think the favourite game for destiny is “surprise”

It was last November when I was planning for my year-end vacation, googling websites to explore various destinations, budgeting, talking to tour providers and what not! I just so desperately wanted this vacation – probably to run away from the medical ups and downs I saw last year. Probably to refresh life again! 

But as I said, destiny is unpredictable! Early December last year, I got the news – the happiest news of my life – that there is a tiny life that has come inside me. The ecstasy this news gave is something I cannot ever express in words.

❤ My pearl has come inside its oyster! 

Felt like a tickle in the belly with my baby saying – Mom I have come for you! 

Everything around me changed. Suddenly I was the one most cared in the family. Whether I am having food on time, taking medicines on time, whether stressing myself too much or should I leave my job and relax at home – where things on the top of the minds of my family.

It euphoric! You suddenly feel like the queen of this world!! 

My world changed – entirely! ✩

It amazes me to see how baby grows inside. From a small dot size, how it takes shape of a human, how all organs are formed, how that small tiny heart beats – every aspect of it is the most beautiful gift of nature. Something that we will owe to nature always!

The feeling I had when I heard the heart beat for the first time, when I felt the kick for the first time, when I felt so uneasy sand unwell still happy thinking its after all because of my tiny tot – every little experience adds to the fulfillment of this journey.

Happy to be a woman getting a chance to experience this delightful phase! Poor husbands, they can only imagine how it would be and get happy with our expressions! 

I am in my last trimester now, counting days to take the unborn in my hands, see the unseen whom I have just felt, and love more than anything else in this world!

Is it a new life inside me or my life inside? ❀ 

♥ Relationships ♥

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relationships1❤ Relationships – the emotional quotient of us, the major chunk that fills our heart, the reason why life seems beautiful, the breath of our life! ❤

In our life, we have many relations around, many roles to play and each one is unique in its own way. Let it be a daughter, sister, wife or just a friend – every emotion forms a relation that keeps our going.

Why are relationships so important in our life?

Because we are humans with love to feel things. Because we are social beings who cannot stay alone. We need people around. Because we love to share and care. Because we are protective about our people. 🙂

❤ There are some relations that we cannot live without and some that are good to have in our social circle. Every string an integral part of our life, the reason of our smiles and cries ❤

emotion1Every relation has its own high and low tide. It sometimes touches the sky, sometimes get beaten by the earth. It has love and fights, care and arguments, understandings and misunderstandings – a complete rollercoaster in our life! 🙂

When we are going strong in a relation, everything around us seems perfect! Every small incident makes us happy, we smile, we feel special – on cloud 9!

When we are in the low phase, good seems bad, nothing really works for us, we feel unwanted in this world! Worse than a devil. 😦

Does that mean its end of the relation? No, not really.

I was very impressed with a dialogue in the movie “English Vinglish” which says there are times when people in a relation help each other to grow, to come out of the low phase, but when nothing seems like a help – HELP YOURSELF. You are the best person to help you!

This is the most important part of life – HELPING yourself to make the relation work. Love yourself, get rid of the negativity, try to trust, try to fill up the gaps in expectations. If you do so, life will give the happiness back to you, you will see things in a new way, you will enjoy the freshness of your life!

Quite impressive, isn’t it?

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Lets enjoy the rollercoaster of every relation! After all, they are the ones that matter most! 🙂 😎