Posted in Beauty, Being Myself, Cooking, Emotions, Excited!!, Family, Happiee Me, Happiness, Human Behaviour, Music, Nature, Recreation, Relationship

When you are happy – world is beautiful!

Have you ever realised that you react to same situation differently depending on your mood? When you are low, every small thing irritates you to its depth and when you are happy, serious problems look easily solvable.

Our moods are like weather, constantly changing. The tiny creatures called hormones run the show of emotions and moods in us sometimes creating wonders and sometimes turning you upside down by blunders! 😉

And to avoid myself getting into blunders, I have got my arms and ammunition ready to keep my mood “happie happie”! It has worked most of the times and I am trying to get it going ALLways!

I have observed when I am happy – my schedule goes exactly as I plan, I dress at my best, I cook deliciously that day (and enjoy eating those extra calories 😛 ), my work is not delayed, my home is all clean and shining 😛 , I blog – overall I see the world so beautiful! 🙂

So let me introduce you to my helping hands that pull me out of the blue-gray feeling and turn it to the best of my moods:

1)      My iPod – I am crazy about music. If anyone asks me one thing that I can’t live without, its going to be answered as iPod. I just have to switch it on and it changes the whole world around me. I start dancing on my toes and start dreaming to touch the sky! Thanks to my iPod that gives me a feeling of sitting next to my favourite singers and listen to their songs! 😉

2)      My cutie pie plants in the garden – Whenever I see them, these tiny colourful creatures give me a feeling of relaxation, calmness, feeling that the world is full of fragrance 🙂 . Nature has its own strength of adding charm to our lives!

3)      My books library – I love reading fiction – till an extent that I totally get into those characters and start feeling them! I completely forget the world around me while reading them. They take me to an altogether different space where no one except me (ofcourse I am one of them here 😛 ) and those characters exist. This space gives me refreshment and when I come back from there, I carry a big smile on my face!

4)      Last but definitely not the least – My family and friends – I have wonderful people around me to change the game. I believe in caring and sharing. I make sure I am always there when they need me and thankfully I have always found them around whenever I need. It’s a blessing to have such loving people around. For them also, its not a big thing for change my mood – they all know very well that they just need to get a chocolate box for me 😛

With so many helping hands, how can I afford not to be happy 😉

So here is a question for you.. What’s your happiness mantra? 🙂

Posted in Emotions, General, Happiness, Human Behaviour, Life, Love, Relationship, Uncategorized

Happiness isn’t a cost thing!

ImageIf you add together all the money spent on objects and entertainment in the pursuit for happiness, you would probably fall off your chair.

We are willing to spend a sensational amount of money to entertain and satisfy our desires. The problem is everything we buy is temporary. Whatever we buy or indulge in it will only make us moderately gratified for short period of time. Then we look to the next fix to distract us from the daily tasks of living. The idea that some lofty goal is going to make us happy is the kind of search that keeps us looking towards the future for fulfillment.

Happiness is not for sale. Just as we cannot buy love, we cannot buy happiness.

Real happiness comes from within. When we achieve something we set out to accomplish, when we finally resolve a problem, when a challenge is overcome then we get a glimpse of what real happiness feels like.

When we fall in love, have a breakthrough in a relationship or enjoy a special moment with someone we care about, we get a chance to feel joy for free.

Contrary to what we like to think real happiness often comes at the end of a journey one that makes us learn about what is really important. You don’t have to have money to be happy – all you need is an open heart

Take a little time to enjoy a cup of coffee with someone you care about. The stress relief will last beyond the momentary joy of self gratification and won’t break the bank either. This is why it’s so important to “stop and smell the roses” because we often distract ourselves from the little moments that make life so special.

Be happy! 🙂

Posted in Emotions, Family, Human Behaviour, Life-Lessons, Love, Luck, Relationship

Old is Gold!

My parents-in-law celebrated their 35th anniversary last week. It was a very special moment for our whole family. More than a celebration, it was a lesson for the young couples to follow their footsteps and lead a happy life.

They had recently visited Pune for a 1-week vacation to stay with us. This 1 week was full of learning for me.

When you have elders at home, it’s that extra moral support you get just by their presence. Their experiences are like teachings for us that help us lead our life in a better way.

I remember one such evening I spent with my mother-in-law and father-in-law sitting in our balcony having a cup of tea and listening to stories of their life, their struggles, their achievements, their experiences, all about their life. At the end of the talk, which I never wanted to end, I felt like yes I want to be like them.

To my surprise and a bit of disbelief, let me share with you, that in their 35 years of married life, they have never fought!! I think it’s more to do with that ‘’give-up” and “have patience”attitude the earlier generation had that helped them to be in sink with each other. I think this is a big achievement in itself. Isn’t it true that our relations are much bigger than our egos?

When my in-laws got married, my father-in-law’s salary was around Rs. 350 a month and even in that, they used to save 10-20 rupees. I had my eyes wide open when I heard this. In today’s world, when most of us have a five digit salary, we have no clue where the salary flows. Atleast I admit that I am poor at managing finance.

Not just savings, in that same salary, they had some school kids come home every Thursday for lunch. In villages we have this system to feed outstation kids that come from poor background once in a week as charity. I felt small hearing this. Though I do charity once in a while, this is something that raised respect for them to a much higher level.

Earlier generation was “people oriented”. May be that is the reason they don’t prefer cities with “closed doors” culture.They valued people more than money. And so, they never faced problems like feeling lonely, depressed or lost like our generation. For us, we prefer speaking on facebook, mobile or sms instead of meeting face to face. Think when was it last time you met a friend or a close relative?

For every small thing they purchased, be it a telephone, a pair of new clothes or shoes, they planned for months and saved and then bought. They never opted for loans 😛 And so, they had value for every small thing they owned. For us, we think it and we get it and so we don’t value our belongings so much.

The best thing I liked was the satisfaction they had throughout their life in managing everything with limited resources.

They are not just one example, there are plenty of them around us. My parents are one of them. Think about your parents, what all we can learn from them?

In this modern lifestyle that we have, we lack the important aspects of life – patience, satisfaction, adjustments, and sacrifices. They have all got covered with ego, self-importance, competition, jealousy and what now.

I believe our earlier generation is a deep ocean of experiences and more than books or anything else, we should learn life lessons from them. I feel lucky to be a part of such an amazing family!!

It’s really high time to sit and analyse where we are heading and where we way we should take to achieve real happiness of life.

The bottom line is Old is truly Gold!

Posted in Emotions, Excited!!, Happiee Me, Human Behaviour, Love, Recreation, Relationship, Special Days

A Sunday of Emotional Roller Coaster

What is a typical Sunday for you? Probably to get up late, plan an outing with friends or family; for some it’s to finish the home chores pending over the weekdays, for others it’s simply to lie on bed throughout the day and enjoy the laziness of life.

My Sunday was no different. I got up late, forcibly, with a list of “To-Dos” in my mind. I believe, for working women, Sunday is the busiest day of the week . From buying vegetables, ironing cloths, cleaning home, to getting pampered with beauty services at the parlour – it’s all done in one day – SUNDAY.

For me it was worst when I heard my maid has taken leave. Uff, I had no option but to turn cook cum cleaner cum maid. Promotion at home you see 😉 and I was absolute brilliantly showing my multitasking talent since morning.

Generally I get quite upset of such thing happening on a Sunday. But this day was different. For a change, I had no complaints doing all the chores because there was an exciting outing planned in the evening !! I guess I had got that extra strength in my blood in excitement of this plan. We were going to Sanskruti Resort to spend our evening in the cultural and fun-packed place . This reason was good enough for me to keep my energy levels high! 😎

Since the time I had got up, I was only thinking of the several poses we would click there, the likes I would get on FaceBook, the cover photo I would change tomorrow, the long drive we would take with my favorite music and of course the tummy tickling feeling that I am not supposed to cook dinner 🙂 what a relief 😉

One of our friends had described Sanskruti Resort in so much detail that I was flooded with Euphoria thinking about my evening ahead! The panipuri stall, the magic show, the mehendi stall, the gaming zone, the variety of food items – overall the so much fun out there waiting for me!! 😎

However, as it is said, overexcitement sometimes leads to huge disappointment. My overexcitement was a victim of the so called reputed IT job my husband is in. My husband called me up at 3.45pm, just when I was about to put on my favorite dress for the perfect evening ahead, saying he would be late and the plan in canceled. 😦 😦

My cheerful mind turned into anger replicating Shiva’s third eye and so was my Tandav at home. In anger, in sympathy, with loving words and at last with warnings, I tried my best to convince him to postpone his work for tomorrow and come home. Nothing worked and I was left with just a “sorry – next time” in the end.

With a broken heart, I sat in the balcony convincing myself that we surely will go some other time. Well, I didn’t have much option after all. I played some of my favorite tracks to change my temper, then turned towards reading book on “keeping yourself calm in difficult situations” 😛

My brain again started building a To-Do for the remaining day but my heart was not at all ready to co-operate.

Somehow got into bed thinking at least I will do something that I love – sleep. 😉

At about 7, the door bell rang and though I knew who was there, I didn’t get up to open the door. There are some typical tantrums a wife plays at home and this one is out of them. 😉

My husband slowly opened the door, well aware that handling me is going to be quite difficult for him. He sat next to me explaining how all he tried to postpone his work, how important was the deadline of project, how bad he felt to cancel the plan. For all of it, my response was silence – the most powerful weapon of a wife 😛

After about an hour of “no talking” at home, he initiated another plan – a candle light dinner – as a compensation to what I missed. My eyes were instantly wide open! On one hand I was angry so can’t accept this so easily; on the other hand, I was afraid he would cancel this as well if I don’t respond quickly. A big fix for me to handle. 😦

After a quick thought, I said – ok this is fine for now but don’t forget your promise of taking me to Sanskruti next weekend. A so called compromise 😉

I dressed up again and we went for a quiet-romantic candle light dinner.

I believe every ambience has its own charm in it. The chill breeze, the moonlight, the open sky, the twinkling stars, the small candle light and that cozy feeling of togetherness – everything was just spectacular! I must admit I forgot all my anger in that environment.

It was a relaxed time for both of us. We were nostalgic at a moment and futuristic at the next. In this fast paced life, when both the partners are working and have their own social circles, such time of affectionate closeness is precious!

I felt overwhelming joy in those moments we spent together. It was just an ideal evening – full of emotions, full of love!

The super moon not just brightened the sky but also made my evening radiant.

No doubt God made this bittersweet relation of husband and wife most special amongst all the others.

A happy me returned home with a sweet smile and a happy heart. 🙂

Our emotions are so very light – they go high low and again high in just fraction of time. Isn’t it something really amazing?

This was truly a day of emotional roller coaster!!

Posted in Human Behaviour, Life, Pain, Power

The Power to Forget

I am a person who loves to cherish all the best moments of my life. These memories keep me going, keep me happy and strong in all situations.

However now, I have discovered yet another power that helps us be happy – THE POWER TO FORGET

“Not the power to remember, but it’s very opposite, the power to forget, is a necessary condition for our existence.” ― Sholem Asch

How true is this statement! Imagine if we didn’t have the power to forget and if we have had kept all the awful memories of our life live in our heart, how miserable life would have been.

We all have Ups and Downs in life – pain of losing people, losing things, sometimes losing confidence. But when we get what we want, we tend to forget the entire struggle we have gone through to achieve that.

It’s not always easy I know, but it’s not impossible as well. I have experienced it myself and I firmly believe so.

There are thousands of such examples I can think of while writing this blog – in my life and in the life of people around me:

–          My sister just finished her MBA and was attending campus interviews. Even after 2 months of rounds and rounds with companies, she wasn’t able to crack an offer for herself. I could see she was losing confidence, but when she got an offer just last week, she was on top of the world. She was dancing on the sky and I believe she hardly thinks about the last 2 months now. 🙂

–          One of my friends who got married last month had a very long tough time finding a right match for herself. She had started thinking she will have to live her life all alone for lifetime.  Her parents were in worry all the time about their daughter’s future. Today she is enjoying her married life, and is happy that this delay has resulted in getting the best man for her. She has forgotten the tough time!

I am sure while reading this post you would also remember such instances of your life.

It’s quite interesting that our brain or rather our memory power keep things that we want and not what makes us sad.

I was told that few thousands of memory cells will be getting erased every day inside human brain and at any point of time we can use only 6-7 % of our total memory capacity. That’s weird to have only 6% of memory usage. But trust me it’s a boon given by god to our race. At least I believe so!

Remember good time and be happy!

Forget the pain and be happier!